How to Talk to Women

…or teach anyone anything.

Teach them the part they don’t know. What is obvious to you may not be so obvious to them. 

After decades of struggle, I have made a life changing discovery. How to avoid tangles in extension cords.

Husky 25 ft. 12/3 SJTW Extension Cord with Standard Plug

http://www.homedepot.com/

I have mentioned my struggle to men in the past. Each one of them was happy to help and as if handing down sacred knowledge from Yoda himself, they all explained in detail that one must be careful when coiling the cord for storage. I thought I had been. Each time I listened carefully because each one seemed so sure that he had the secret. Some seemed a bit amused. Not that I was a silly girl asking a stupid question. It was more like they discovered that I had not been let in on this secret. A sudden realization that guy code secrets have not been leaked. As these were all honorable men, they decided that a lady in need who had bravely wondered into the garage, must be let in on the key to a happy extension cord. And so, the tutorial on how to neatly wrap began.

After decades of trials, my issue was not proper cord storage.  I had been wrapping the cord neatly. My problem was in the un-wrapping. No one ever mentioned the unraveling process. The wrapping was supposed to be the secret. So, in my mind, how you unwind it should not have mattered. Well, I guess they thought that part was obvious.

Or maybe that was the sacred guy code bit they were not allowed to speak of in mixed company. 😉

Popping Pills 1: Vitamin D3

My vitamins

Supplements

I have mixed feeling about dietary supplements.  Most vitamins and minerals that we need can be taken in natural food form.  That seems so much better than popping pills to make up for holes in our diet.  Pills do not always absorb into the body and without the enzymes and other nutrients that accompany the target vitamin in whole foods, they may not be as effective.  There are a few areas that I just seem unable to ingest the desired amount no matter how many juices and smoothies I mix up.

I thought I would share my list and my justification for needing each.  Today is D3 day.  Everyone should thoughtfully consider and research any supplement that is added to their regimen.

Do you take supplements?

Vitamin D

I take this supplement because I have tested low.  Sunshine without sunblock is not a good option for me because I have a skin condition (vitiligo) that takes pigment out of my skin and may increase my risk for sun damage.  Another reason is that I have eliminated most fortified foods in my quest to eat more whole foods and avoid dairy.

I have had two tests with results of 15 and 23 ng/mL.  The table below is from the National Institutes of Health.

Table 1: Serum 25-Hydroxyvitamin D [25(OH)D] Concentrations and Health* [1]
nmol/L** ng/mL* Health status
<30 <12 Associated with vitamin D deficiency, leading to rickets in infants and children and osteomalacia in adults
30–50 12–20 Generally considered inadequate for bone and overall health in healthy individuals
≥50 ≥20 Generally considered adequate for bone and overall health in healthy individuals
>125 >50 Emerging evidence links potential adverse effects to such high levels, particularly >150 nmol/L (>60 ng/mL)

* Serum concentrations of 25(OH)D are reported in both nanomoles per liter (nmol/L) and nanograms per milliliter (ng/mL).
** 1 nmol/L = 0.4 ng/mL

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Introverts and Energy

My idea of a fun Friday night. 8)

I was driving to a conference this weekend and listening to Growing Bolder on the radio.

The guest being interviewed was Sophia Dembling.  She has written a new book entitled, The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World It was a very interesting interview and there was one particular topic that really stood out for me.

She stated that extroverts not only crave social interaction but are also energized by it.  Introverts may like social interaction but are drained by it.  Introverts will need some alone time to recharge.

Maybe this solves the mystery of why I am usually tired.  My job, a job I love, involves at least 40 hours a week of social interaction.  I fake being an extrovert pretty well, but it is exhausting.  So maybe I do not need blood work, a special diet, or more supplements.  I just need to figure out how to fake being energized while pretending to be an extrovert.

http://growingbolder.com/media/living/self-help/sophia-dembling-844767.html

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S.A.I.D. Principle

SAID Principle

This is a principle that I learned in school.

 It means that when the body is placed under some form of stress, it starts to make adaptations that will allow the body to get better at withstanding that specific form of stress in the future.

The SAID principle is generally applied to athletes that need to train for a specific sport.  Do they need to focus on speed, on power, on endurance?  Athletes train on the field and in the weight room for not only their sport, but their specific position.

I have begun to consider how many other areas of life that the SAID principle can be applied.

  • If I sit on the couch and eat junk all day, my body adapts and becomes really good at coping with that specific habit.
  • As I meditate more often, my body is becoming more adept at relaxing quickly.  I am not carrying stress in my shoulders nearly as much.
  • Though paddleboarding involves a great core workout, my abs were really sore after returning to the gym’s sit-up chair.
  • I have heard that many writers write something everyday.  Even if it is not directly related to a current project, it can improve writing.
  • If faking a smile can make you happy, can whining make you more miserable?

What are you adapting to?

Day Trip: Manatees and Mediums II

Cassadaga

A while back the universe had to yell at me to pay attention.  Since that time I had been playing with the idea of visiting a place in Florida that is home to many mediums and spiritual healers.  The boat tour I took in the morning was close to the camp, so I thought that I should take advantage of the geography, and stop by.

Established as a Spiritualist community in 1894, the Southern Cassadaga Spiritualist Camp Meeting Association™ consists of approximately 57 acres with 55 residences. Those who reside here have chosen to share in a community of like-minded people where they can live, worship and work in harmony with their beliefs. About 25 of the Camp’s residents are mediums who offer counseling from their homes.

I stopped at the bookstore first.  That is where you can find books on a wide range of topics, oils, stones, and some hand crafted goods.  I did get a Selenite wand.  It is purported to have healing qualities and it is the perfect shape to roll out sore muscles or press into a trigger point.Selenite Wand

They have a board up in to corner of the store that has a list of mediums and healers that are available that day.  You are also encourage to take a card and call anyone that is not on the board to set an appointment.  I was hesitant to call anyone because I did not have any questions or issues that I wanted to ask about.  I did end up calling someone because I wanted to see what it was all about.  The medium lived about 500 feet from the store, so I walked down and he was waiting for me on his porch.

He lead me into a quiet room in the house and we sat across from each other.  He explained what he did and a little bit about how he came to be there and do what he does.  After introductions, he opened the session with a prayer.  No messages or anything came across.  We talked for about an hour about various things and healing methods.  He did a spiritual healing for me after we were done.

I am glad I went.  No great answers to the universe or anything.  I do plan on restarting  meditation.

Dryer Sheet Uses

Hands down, my favorite use for dryer sheets is cleaning bugs off the car.  Normal soap and sponge scrubbing does not begin to eliminate the layers of dried bug juice that accumulate during certain times of the year.  A little water and a dryer sheet acts like a magic eraser.  It usually takes several sheets to clean the bumper and you should wash the area after to get rid of any residue.

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